The Problem With Problems Is No Problem!

Finding a solution to the most difficult problem is not complicated. In fact, it's quite simple. All it takes is an expanded perspective. By broadening how we see things, we can observe the flaw in how we address issues. We tend to unconsciously limit our understanding and subsequent options to the personal knowledge puddle of what we already know, no matter how absurdly tasking, far-fetched and energy draining this path is.

It's like catching a flight to France when you want to make French Toast. It's possible to learn how to make the treat in Paris, and receive support from a number of well-intentioned folk, who, from their experience, might support us in our thinking. However, if we expand our awareness, even just a little, and consider other possibilities, we can see that the recipe is easily available to us through friends, cookbooks, online, etc. Without this consideration, the trip to Paris might seem reasonable or required.

Sound silly? Is it any stranger than trying to find relief from painful emotions by expecting the person who triggered them to change their behavior? Or any more bizarre than trying to fulfill our need for peace and inner security by accumulating more money, stimulating more excitement and busyness, or engaging in any other distraction that we believe might numb the disquiet? Are we so certain that meeting our needs and desires isn't fully and easily possible, even probable, without all the manipulation, drama and compromise that we are settling for instead? Could it be that we just keep looking for love (fulfillment) in all the wrong (difficult) places?

And there is a deeper quandary with problem solving. Our certainty, that any situation actually is a problem in need of our efforts to change it, is determined from within the shallow accumulation of our past understanding, i.e. the stored memories, reactive patterns and repetitive judgments that we are already familiar with. So whenever something new shows up in our life, instead of greeting it with loving curiosity and inquiry, we unconsciously size it up - classifying it as something we have previously seen and experienced. Thus establishing our certainty of it and that's all there is to it. Now exploration is off the experiential menu, leaving only the harsh options of choosing how we will react to it. Welcome to the illusory world of self-conceived problems and their ill-fitting solutions.

So what's the solution? It is to have no problem at all. Problems only exist in the mind while it is forming its version of the situation from the noise of thoughts entertaining past memories projected into future expectations. So rather than slipping into this self-made machinery of mental manipulations, we can opt instead to do nothing. Yes, do nothing and just wait with whatever is showing up before us to see how it either moves us to action, NOW, within this moment (not one instant sooner), or keeps us waiting until we can see more of what it is that has come into our lives to BLESS US. Yes, BLESS US. We have no idea how many countless treasures (BEYOND OUR PRESENT UNDERSTANDING) we have missed because of our insistence on (FROM OUR PRESENT UNDERSTANDING) to changing them into what we wanted or didn't want. We simply checked out from noticing the unlimited promise of what they showed up to be.

There is a cost to walking this path, but it is nothing in comparison to the immense amount of suffering that we have paid, and continue to pay, for maintaining our reactions instead of realizing our dreams: The price we must pay is not knowing in advance how Life will Magnificently Bless us. We have to let go and let LIFE surprise us.

This is how problems solve themselves, by releasing raw circumstance from having to show up so insanely disguised, in order to play out the bit parts of our dramas that we have misdirected them in. Once released, we get to witness awesome openings through which seeming problems dissolve into deliciously expansive experiences, that we originally judged as discrepancies. These same non-flaws become the very stepping stones that lead us into a grander vision and effortless invitation to more joyous response.

As the writer and mystic, Franz Kafka so succinctly put it: You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. "Do not even listen, simply wait. Do not even wait, be quite still and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked, it has no choice, it will roll in ecstasy at your feet."

Paris is a trip worth taking simply in itself and French toast has its own allure as well. When we're not absorbed in reasoning the connection between the two, we're free to experience their natural joy and spontaneity through a plethora of other friendly entwined wonders just as eager to make our acquaintance.

Bon voyage et Bon appétit.

Dale Blackford

 

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